Lost in the World Double Standards

Lost in the World Double Standards Home Blogging Lost in the World : Double StandardsBloggingcareerLost in the World : Double StandardsBy Sonal - December 31, 201623890Facebook Double standards  I want to share the story of a friend , a person very close to my heart, a recent graduate, a passionate soul full of dreams, with a zeal to rise and shine like the most shining star in the sky. She has everything what it takes to follow the path but may be lacks courage, a little confidence.I knew her since childhood she was not always like this, a girl with over confidence who had never cared about the world has turned a coward I should say. I do not know whether this word is justified or not but her inner courage is useless when her outer fear has no bounds. But struggles, experiences are meant to make us better. Right? Then what happened in her case? May be she got shattered by the harsh, superficial world that continues to condemn her, oppress her and proved her that in this world a person with spine and morals end up f eeling betrayed and lonely. Corrupt, hollow, spineless people cannot end the limitless dreams but wound the dreamer. Time heals all, then why her wounds are taking so long? Its been years but honestly I feel all her attempts are in vain. She went for things, realized it’s pathetic nature, and then she left. She is not the one who can bear the shit. A carefree bird from inside waiting for a direction, a way to fly higher and to never stop. I appreciate her never ending spirit but sometimes I strongly feel she will give up any moment, but then she resists.I have always witnessed her incredible, most affectionate and a very cute bond with her mother, but I do not know, I believe that her mother is now frustrated or may be hopeless, according to many her dreams are huge and unrealistic and may be my friend is getting a little depressed and turning into an irritating being but honestly when you keep talking and talking and there is no result, then you sound foolish, then its like “Oh this girl is lazy she is just making excuses , wasting her life and killing her precious time, bloody good for nothing, a burden on earth, why cant she behave and act normal, whats her damn problem, what on earth is she doing?” Trust me those words rip your soul apart. You know I  won’t say her family is wrong because all they want is her happiness and success so according to them her dreams are the culprit and even she understands their condition, but I always wonder what about her trauma, what she is going through is sad, her agony, misery, sufferance is unbearable. Whom to blame? I guess the fu*king society, this hypocrite world, meaningless, baseless rules, those who impose their stinking, rotten way of  living on others are worst, who have the capability to suck a person’s soul. Those hollow creatures with no morals, the darkness prevailing in this system, the wrong methods and what not. This all just pissed me off, so annoying. Isn’t it? I do not have any idea whatâ €™s there in life’s treasure box for her, but her relations which are getting affected adversely, her deep dark depression surrounding her is not due to her follies, these are the old wounds which are taking a lot of time in getting healed.I seriously wish if the hurdles that we have to face are created by us and not by all the other as*holes. Now she is right back to where she had started, life is such an unutterable hell.Roaming in dark nightsLifeless, heartlessan urge to riseWith the fear to fallIn the lifeless lifeA soul of dreams ;  Webbed in world  Desire to flyTo scream, to cry,Starts with a happiness to try..Dreams or devilsSuffer or satisfyCourageous or cowardPain or enduranceIn this cold war of experiences and hopesThe pain of back stabsOr the strength of backboneMakes this life tough  But worth living..  TAGSsocietystorystrongstrong women

How I Survived My First Year of Business - Classy Career Girl

How I Survived My First Year of Business If I had to pick one word to describe my 2017, the word that stands out the most in my mind would be transformation. I hadn’t planned on taking a leap to start a business until summer 2017. If anything, that would be the absolute earliest time for me to take the leap. In fact, I had worked out a schedule with my boss so that I could use Fridays as a day to work on my business, but still be on-call for work. Pretty sweet, right? The Call and What Happened After That One day in January, I got a call from my boss (I worked from home) and found out I was being let go. In the past, I had left many jobs without giving two week’s notice and without a backup plan. This was one of the rare times where I actually had a potential backup plan. Although I had been blogging since 2012, it wasn’t really until late 2015 I decided to finally take my blog seriously and look into turning creating a business of some sort from it. In my mind, I wasn’t ready. The timing was way off. With respect to my business, I didn’t have my ducks in a row. Having a frugal mindset, a semi-part time job, savings in the bank and a husband who was willing to pull more than his financial weight was what enabled me to pursue building my business.  During the first few months of 2017, I was still looking for jobs. I eventually realized that I owed it to myself to give my business a chance. Losing my job was my chance. And that’s when I decided to really put my energy and focus into it. I’m that weirdo who likes to take on challenges and flaunt it. Of course, each challenge comes with significant struggle. Running your own business is no different. I know everyone says starting a business is hard, risky (especially on your finances) and that your first year is hard, but until you actually experience it for yourself you will never truly realize how difficult it is. Trying to sell a service that doesn’t produce anything concrete is difficult. Trying to sell an idea, something that is not physical is difficult. It is one thing to know about your area of expertise, but to create a business from it? To convince people they need it and that they should pay you money for it? That is a whole new dimension. [RELATED: How I Found the Courage to Leave my 6-Figure Job to Chase a Dream] Pivoting Not Once, But Twice Originally I had started off offering blog coaching services to anybody and everybody. Basically, anybody who wanted to start a blog. To get some experience and a few testimonials under my belt, I provided free blog coaching services to several people around the world. By mid-February, it dawned on me to change my focus to help small business owners use blogging and social media for their business. I positioned myself as someone who would manage that for people but then eventually I realized I didn’t want that to be part of my business plan. A few months later, I came to the realization that I wanted to change my direction again. I wanted to be more of a consultant and guide small business owners on their blogging and social media journey. Interestingly enough, I accidentally landed a part-time teaching gig at a local college where I would teach social media. How I Believed I Survived Year One During my first year, I did manage to gain a small handful of clients and run a successful in-person blogging workshop. However that year wasn’t without a tremendous amount of self-doubt, anxiety, tears, overwhelm, confusion and frustration. There were countless times where I thought about going back to a day job.  I often asked myself why I couldn’t be satisfied with a regular 9 to 5 like most people. Why couldn’t I pull it together, why was I starting over yet again ( I have a track record that consists of switching undergraduate degrees, changing jobs almost every 1.5 years, changing careers and applying to grad school twice). I had absolutely no idea what it was like to climb a career ladder because ever since I graduated university, I’ve been climbing a career jungle gym. I learned to take advice from people who had a similar target market and people who had been doing consulting for a while (and not to listen so much to the advice of family when it came to running a business). It had finally sunk in that I wanted something else. In order to make it happen, I had to seek out a completely different path and do completely different things. Things that made my introverted, anti-social self very uncomfortable. In addition to this, I attribute my survival to the following seeking help from other people, networking, putting ideas into action and continuing to show up, moving forward no matter what. As I enter year two, I still feel like I am in survival mode. Except that I now have gained some basic survival skills to help me navigate the wilderness of business.

7 Tips For Handling an Out of Town Job Interview

7 Tips For Handling an Out of Town Job Interview Job interviews are stressful.There are a lot of factors to prepare for, from reviewing common interview questions to finding a great interview outfit.But what if that interview is in another town or state?If you are looking for a job outside of your area, you will need to know how to prepare for an out of town job interview.There is more to think about than just the interview questions you will be asked and what you will wear.But don’t worry!Here are some tips on how to handle your out-of-town job interview.Determine How Expenses Are Being CoveredKnowing what expenses are included when you are traveling for an interview is crucial.If it is not explicitly expressed, ask what travel expenses you will responsible for?Is airfare or gas expenses covered? Are you responsible for your hotel? Do meals and transportation fall under covered expenses?These are all questions that should be asked prior to the interview.It’s also important to ask if the covered expenses are paid up front or if you will be reimbursed for your travel.Be Clear on Your ArrangementsOnce you have determined how the expenses will be handled, you will need to be aware of how the arrangements are being made.Most companies will provide you with a detailed process of how they handle travel arrangements, but if you have any questions, be sure to ask.Know who is responsible for booking your travel and lodging and how you will get information on the arrangements.If you are responsible for the travel costs or you will be reimbursed, you will most likely be managing your own arrangements, but ask for clarification if necessary.Make Smart Financial ChoicesIf your potential employer is covering your expenses, be mindful of your spending.Not being responsible for the cost does not mean you should run up the bill unnecessarily.On a trip to the job interview, you want to make sure your expenses portray you as a candidate that can make smart financialchoices.If booking your own flight or hotel, fly coach and choose a modest business hotel.Treat your expenses as part of the interview.Don’t rack up room charges with expensive room service or pay-per-view movies.Be aware that your expenses, if too indulgent, could make you appear irresponsible to the company. Arrive Early If You CanIf you are planning your travel arrangements, consider arriving a day early.Giving yourself a day to prepare without the worry of being late can cut down on stress and make it easier for you to focus on the interview.Traveling the day before can also cut down on unexpected travel delays, like canceled or late flights or traffic accidents.Additionally, if you are unfamiliar with the area, arriving early can give you time to find the location of your interview and get familiar with the town.Arrive a day early and give yourself time to settle in and prepare the night before the interview.Account for Day TwoIf you did amazing on your interview, you might find the company asks you to return the next dayBe prepared for the second day and know how to handle impromptu interviews.If you can, make your travel arrangements flexible for an additional day of interviews. Make sure your schedule is clear for two days after the initial interview.Also, come prepared with at least two sets of interview clothes in case you are asked back for another meeting.Always Be on “Interview Mode”Traveling to a new town for an interview may seem like a vacation, but it’s important to remember the reason you are visiting.You never know who could be connected to your potential company when you are visiting.Be polite and professional to those around you, even if you are at the hotel or out to dinner in town.News of your rudeness with hotel staff or excessive drinking at a hotel bar could get to your potential employer and keep you from getting the job.Prepare for the Interview Ahead of TimeTraveling can put a lot of stress on you.There are a lot of factors to consider when traveling that can distract you from your interview.Before you head out of town, make sure you are prepared for the interview.Research common interview questions and answers.Gather any supplies and papers you need.Write down your potential questions to ask during your interview.By preparing ahead of time, you will be able to eliminate additional stress and have resources to review the night before.

Career Advice Skip the Next Job Fair

Career Advice Skip the Next Job Fair WorkSource stopped hosting job fairs in 2009.   That’s the year the recession hit our region hard, but we’d been having trouble filling tables at our monthly recruiting events for a while.   We charged a nominal fee for businesses to participate, just enough to cover our advertising cost, but we found fewer and few companies willing to pay at all.   Finally, we changed formats entirely; we now hold a virtual event quarterly, for which we do not charge employers at all. (The next virtual job fair runs June 10 14, 2013.) In addition to attendance by employers, the traditional job fair has changed in other ways. A decade ago, you might actually get the chance to sit down with a recruiter and conduct an actual interview.   Your resume would be read and considered; you might even get an offer at the event.   Today, the online application process is the only entrée into a company, and the only thing many people will hear from recruiters at events is “apply online.” Crowds of hopeful jobseekers have increased dramatically at the same time that employers have been cutting back, making the competition at job fair events tougher than ever. If you’ve attended an event over the past few years, you know that it doesn’t feel very productive. But is it still worth your time to attend? Not according to new research from Workforce Florida, Inc., the agency responsible for setting workforce policy for the state workforce organizations.   Workforce Florida conducted research to learn more about how businesses find new employees in March of 2013.   The results are in this chart. Source: Workforce Florida, Inc. 2013 According to the employers surveyed, “Word of mouth from friends, relatives and colleagues” was most frequently cited as the source for new hires, used “sometimes” or “frequently” by 80 percent of the responding companies.   Job fairs were cited as frequent resources by only 8 percent of those surveyed. Networking tops any method you might be using to connect with people and job leads.

Sample Resume - Make a Sample Resume Summary Quick and Easy

Sample Resume - Make a Sample Resume Summary Quick and EasyIn order to avoid making mistakes when writing a sample resume, I would like to share a tip with you on how to write your sample resume. Do not feel that there is any particular secret. You are just as capable of writing a well-structured resume as you are of writing a confusing one.Before starting to create your resume, you should first of all to organize your thoughts and ideas in terms of the kinds of jobs for which you are applying for. As an example, if you're applying for a job that involves technical skills in the field of electronic engineering, your resume should be organized on the basis of the key skills you possess, especially the ones related to that job.In this way, your resume is organized according to its key skills, as well as the ways in which it can help you in that job. On the other hand, if you are applying for a job that involves social science skills, you should be able to arrange your resume according to those social sciences, or on the basis of your general interests.After organizing your key skills and interests into your sample resume, you are now ready to turn to the next step: making your resume summary. If you are looking for ways on how to make a summary easy to read, consider writing your summary first. This will make it easier for your prospective employer to easily read the details of your resume, as well as check out the important details in a nutshell.The next thing you should do, aside from making your resume summary easily readable, is to organize your summary in such a way that your reader can easily find the information he or she needs on his or her first glance. This is where words such as bullet points, underlined words, and bolded words can help.By creating these, you are making your words as visually appealing as possible, and your readers will be able to easily find what they need on their first glance. But, keep in mind that these are very general and do not necessarily denote that your resume summary must contain only these words.The point is, as long as you use bullets and underlines for your sample resume summary, you are already on the right track. The next thing you should do is to add in the most important information about yourself.Keep in mind that every major parts of your resume must be presented and included at the very beginning of your resume. This is because by the time you are done with writing your resume, you will already have gained the attention of your prospective employer.

Summary Sunday Dont Dread Job Search- Master It

Summary Sunday Dont Dread Job Search- Master It No one likes searching for a new job. But this dreaded process is something everyone has to do at least several times in their life. How much time and effort does it take to master job search? Theres a learning curve each time you need to search for a new job and coming up to speed can take weeks of missteps as you learn the new intricacies of the process and strategies. You know that feeling when youre in your zonethings are running smoothly. You feel confident. You are ready to conquer your next mountain. Thats what I want you to feel like every day you search for your next great gig! Each Summary I compile contains top-performing articles that address common issues job seekers face as they ramp up their job searches.  I share these hand curated articles to educate and inform job seekers to give the needed boost to their searches. JOB SEARCH Why Your Job Search Is Not Working New Study Shows Disconnect Between Managers And Candidates by Caroline Ceniza-Levine | Forbes There is interesting data in this article but even better is the advice on how to improve your job search. Are you focusing on personal connections AND technology? It isnt one or the other, your job search needs both! See why! How Top ATS Systems Analyze Your Resume By Jon Shields, Jobscan.co | Job-Hunt.org The more you understand how applicant tracking systems (ATS) work, the better you will be at writing a resume that reaches a recruiters eyeballs. This article explains how three ATS work and how their search functionality prioritizes resumes. INTERVIEWING Want to Sound Emotionally Intelligent In Interviews? Avoid These 6 Expressions by Judith Humphrey | Fast Company People who are Emotionally Intelligent are aware of, control, and express emotions, as well as manage interpersonal relationships discreetly and empathetically. When you use any of these 6 expressions, you could be pointing out the fact that you do not work well with people. And in todays workplace- communicating and working well on teams are super important. How to Negotiate for a Better Salary When You’re Switching Careers by Dr. Dawn Graham | Medium As a Switcher, you may feel you’re not entitled to ask for more money. After all, you were lucky just to get the offer, right? Wrong writes Graham. Mustering up the courage to ask for flexibility is the first step. This is an excellent article for anyone, but especially important for people switching careers. LINKEDIN 5 Insider Tips for Getting Noticed on LinkedIn by Donna Serdula, LinkedIn-Makeover.com Not only will you see these tips in Donnas Business Insider video, youll also get the tips in written form! Take some time to follow this advice to improve your LinkedIn profile and get noticed. CAREER/WORKPLACE TRENDS The End of Loyalty? by Laetitia Vitaud | Mault This will shed some light on employee and employer loyalty. Vitaud believes we need to redefine loyalty. This may not be a top priority for employersyet. But it should be. MENTIONS 8 Things That Can Hold Back Your Career by Daniel Bortz | Monster We all can pay a little bit more attention to our careers. This article lays out some of the many ways we hold our careers back. I was thrilled to be quoted in this article by my friend Daniel!

Dos and Donts of Using Social Media Platforms to Find a Job - CareerEnlightenment.com

Do’s and Don’ts of Using Social Media Platforms to Find a Job If you are to be successful on social media and land that dream job it is important to heed a few do’s and don’ts.Social media platforms (Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn and personal blogs and websites) are relied on by hiring managers as an effective tool to screen job applicants. A 2017 Harris Poll revealed that 70 percent of employers visit the social media profiles of candidates on the shortlist before making a final hiring decision. This is a ten percent increase from last year.What your social media profiles say about you is importantThere are many reasons for using social media profiles in this way; one of the most important is that it helps employers match the perfect candidate to their job requirements.Important information about a potential employee can be gleaned from what is shared online (videos, photos, and comments). This is why being on your best online behavior is vitally important to create a good impression.Social media used responsibly can benefit your job search A negative tweet or comment or embarrassing photo posted on Facebook or inconsistent information on LinkedIn can quite easily disqualify your application and take you out of the running. In addition to indiscretions, recruiters check for inconsistencies in your employment background.But before you erase the entirety of your online presence and delete all your social media accounts preferring to play it safe, research suggests you think again: almost 60 percent of employers in the Harris Poll acknowledged they are less inclined to move onto the interview stage if the candidate is not reasonably represented online. In this day and age who doesn’t have a digital footprint?Expert advice is that HR managers use social media as a screening tool for finding supporting information rather than look for information to disqualify an applicant. A recruitment survey carried out by Jobvite highlighted that 23 percent of recruiters found information on online profiles that led to them offering t he candidates jobs.So, what is called for is responsible digital behavior. Use these do’s and don’ts as a foundation to build positive online profiles: Want to Read More Articles Like This One?Sign up here to receive weekly updates from Career Enlightenment, and never miss another powerful job searching tip! SUBSCRIBE! You have Successfully Subscribed!We hate spam too. Unsubscribe any time. Do’sMind your languageWatching your grammar is as important on your LinkedIn profile as it is on Facebook or Twitter. Using poor or inappropriate language and incorrect spelling conveys a negative impression to an employer.Adjust your privacy settingsSet privacy settings (where applicable) to allow only direct connections to view personal photos or status updates so that you are in control of what prospective employers see. Or ensure that you choose the highest privacy settings if you want to keep posts out of the public eye.For 54 percent of employers posts or photos of alcohol consump tion carry a negative impression. The same goes for illicit drug use.Follow companies and other industry thought leadersRetweeting, commenting and sharing posts of the company you want to work for and relevant industry influencers shows your involvement and interest in your industry and line of work. Being on trend with current news can work to your advantage in an interview.Complete your LinkedIn profile Be assured that employers will look closely at your LinkedIn profile and any incomplete inconsistent information in your employment history will raise red flags. Remember to review and update your skillset and qualifications when applicable.Don’ts Don’t post inappropriate contentThe first don’t in the social media bible of ethical behaviour is to refrain from posting anything that could be deemed offensive, sexist, derogatory or extremist. Ignore this rule and be assured your online footprint will count against you.Avoid using social media to air grievancesBad mouthing people and institutions and your ex-boss can be seen in a negative light and cast a shadow over a job application.Don’t use unprofessional account handlesUsing pet names or nicknames you were given in childhood for your Facebook or LinkedIn account is inappropriate for a jobseeker. Employers find anything other than your official name as a sign of immaturity and the inability to use proper judgement.The do’s offered above can help boost a successful job search while the don’ts work to hinder or hurt your job application. The best ‘best practice’ technique when sharing or posting on social media is to spare a minute to think before you hit that post button. The idea is to impress hiring managers and convince them you’re the person for the job.